MALE MENOPAUSE: ALL-SYSTEMS-GO (CONCLUSION)
Obviously discovering homosexual love can take life to a dramatic point for a married man especially if, as is not uncommon, he then finds sex with a woman abhorrent and he can no longer make love to his wife. And should she discover the reason for his change, the moment of discovery can be hurtful. Only very few wives find themselves in a position to talk rationally to their husbands about the problem and only in a sophisticated circle can a wife discuss such matters with friends or family. As with heterosexual lapses in a good marriage she may conclude there is a lot to be lost and forgive him his lapse and it will take the man time to re-establish the marriage on a warm footing. With luck and no more (known) adventures the marriage enters a more mature stage.
And while some heterosexual men develop a taste for gay life it is not unknown at this juncture for gay men to take stock of their transient world and want to establish a heterosexual pattern. However unlike the heterosexual discovering latent emotions within himself, a gay man usually finds within himself a new maturity and a yearning to have a lifestyle most people would accept as normal and to have a secure family environment, preferably with his own children.
This does not mean these men necessarily foresake their gay lives although many can, and do. Most make marriages with wives who know of their gay pasts and assume that if the gay predilection is not over, at least it will not interfere with the calm of their lives, ever. Both husband and wife are seeking companionship and security with a mature marriage.
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